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When Is it Time to Go Back on Your Words & Break your Promises?

Your past commitments, no matter what they were, should not limit your growth, they should rather suite your current needs and be aligned with all it currently takes for you to remain sane and productive.

It’s amazing how people want you to keep them in your life and business when there is glaringly no more positive or tangible contributions they are making to your life.

I don’t see why you should keep your promises to such people. Even if the promises were binded by oaths you should find all means to break any oath constraining you to any entity that brings no value to you. Even if such entity used to bring the maximum value to you, that doesn’t matter. The fact is that although it used to be very valuable, it is however no longer valuable and should be treated as an invaluable.

Except you’re suffering from hoarding disorder, you don’t keep holding on to things that no longer serve any purpose. Any commitment, no matter how profitable and interesting it was in the time past, that has lost all its valor and purpose should quickly be discarded without remorse.

For progress and happiness in life, you should be extremely flexible and responsive to the changing dynamics of the everyday life. As soon as a particular reality looses its validity, you should evolve into the new phase.

This is applicable both in your businesses and in your relationships. Do not let yourself be stuck in situations where your decisions are based on past commitments. As much as you are able to, emancipate yourself from your past words and actions.

As much as you can help it, do not make any promises. And if you’ve done so, do not allow yourself to be held down by your promises. In as much as it is for your own good and it wouldn’t bring about cruel harm to someone else, do not stick to your promises.

There are two objections that can be raised against this thought of mine. The first is from anyone wondering, “What if indeed a business or relationship no longer gives me needed advantage? Shall I not attempt to make it work again? Shall I not give all it takes to resuscitate the drying essence of the relationship?”

To this I would quickly reply, no you shall not. Except you’re the cause of such tragedy. And if that is so then you could be rebuked, and you should then do everything to correct your mistakes. Or else, you should expect the other party to cut you off so you can face the repercussions of your negligence.

However, if you’re not the cause of the faults in the relationship, then get ready to cut off the infected branch from you so that other areas of your life won’t become infected too.

The second objection would be from someone who wants to know, “Shall I cut myself off from irrelevant committees that no longer serve their purpose even when there’s possibility that there could be future use of them?”

To this objection I would reply, no. Because then it’s all up to you. I’ve shown you why it’s unwise to stick with useless commitments but if you feel like sticking with them because you feel like they might have a future use, then so be it. Stick with it.

However always remember that a currently needless luggage, no matter what future use it might have, would be better off a sinking ship than be in it to sink it deeper.

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